24
June
2008
June
2008
Back with Full Force Podcast
The podcast tackles
1) The CRITICAL two things that solidify an interaction (and carries it past just the opening phase)
2) The importance of being in the real world
3) personality
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I really enjoyed this podcast especially the “2 critical factors”. Lately I’ve been trying to put the juggler method into a psychological context, specifically the SOA and SOI. Basically motivation is the compulsion to act or to change a behavior. It has 2 parts, a meaningful reason why and the confidence that you CAN do the activity or change the behavior.
So for example, Let’s say I want to quit smoking. My reason why is lung cancer. It doesn’t work… Why? Rule of motivation #1- If you’re not motivated enough it’s because your reason-why is not convincing or meaningful enough. You have to appeal to your logical side first (For psychological and social reasons), the reason must be BELIEVABLE, trustworthy, rational and credible. To be emotionally meaningful is subjective, because what’s meaningful to me may not be to you. So you must use an honest emotionally compelling reason.
My reason was lung cancer but truthfully that’s in the back of my mind. “I’ll get it when I’m 70-80 so who really cares?”. My new reason becomes “I want to quit because I’d like to jog for more energy, and workout to get a new girlfriend but smoking is making it really difficult.” Now that works better because it’s more meaningful to me. The second part of motivation I think actually is intertwined with the SOI but I won’t go into it for now.
So how does this deal with JM? Well remember, motivation is when you’re compelled to do something. And picking up a girl is just that. You want to motivate her to commit, or to go on a second date, or to fuck. So this is where the reason-why comes in. It’s about giving her a clear, believable, credible, trustworthy, rational and emotionally compelling reason for WHY you like her (SOA) and why SHE likes YOU.