November
2008
Statements versus Questions: How to hook a girl easy in conversations
IF you're a guy who does cold approaches on a fairly regular basis, you KNOW you've progressed into the initial entry when you've got your set "hooked",
The easiest one for me is throwing out personal, relatable statements off the bat, and then shut up and let them relate to it thereafter. Delivery wise, i want to throw a preamble before it -- which is a physical touch, or a sound like "heeey" to get her full attention...then talk slower and a bit louder...so that she absorbs all that is being said. Nonverbally i pull back a bit, by shifting my weight back, and pull a vacuum -- which means i sort of freeze my face for an expected answer.
"This is (preamble to create tension and which the girl looks)...one of the most...upclass venues i've been in....No cover!"
Let's say she says "yeah! it's actually pretty nice! (you hold the vacuum)...I like the architecture"
NOW For beginners: The next part here is you must, at all costs, control yourself, from asking questions that seek information...OR control yourselves from making a compliment!
"I love this place because it has such a friendly vibe to it, which is really cool because i don't like people just clustered together..."
If you wash, rinse and repeat it should create the same relate effect....
An Exercise i do is as much as i can with EVERY INTERACTION I THROW STATEMENTS ONLY.
When you get used to this, you can now adjust things to add more flirting or humor...
"I love this place because it has such a friendly vibe to it, which is really cool because i don't like people just clustered together...like YOU and your cluster of one...where's your tribe at? Where's your incan matrimonial head mask? Did you just call me Incan??"
A humor bit will definitely bring out a laugh or a tease/flirt...again this should be calibrated.
Questions on the next blog entry...
