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TDD’s Niche Theory and Key Lessons

Ever wonder why there’s a very short PUA shelf life? A lot of these guys literally fall off the map after, at the most, 2-3 years of doing it. I’ve been around for several years, and that’s around 3 PUA lives (lol), and so I’ve seen people try this shit out and literally drop like flies as time passes. Not because they got an awesome girlfriend, but because they just plain fell off.

After all that hard effort, work, time reading books and ebooks, and most of all, money, they realized that DOing this isn’t really for them. The main complaint there is that they haven’t gotten women that they want. If they ever got laid it was from some sloppy seconds drunk girl or a girl they never really were attracted to in the first place, and they wake up everyday questioning their own attractiveness because their method of attracting women is operation-based. It’s a method of DOing, not BEing. So, just like a computer program, to attract a girl they need to boot the computer, wait for it to work, key the password in, and so on. If they can’t get the DOing off the ground, they’re pretty much screwed.

Knock through enough doors and you’ll get a result; Keep practicing and you’ll get it. Keep approaching and you’ll get the girl - are some of the advice that you’ll probably get in the PUA world. Well. we’ve seen some very surprising results from some guys like this guy from a popular PUA school (and trust me, guys who come to us are humble enough to share very similar results)

My PUA Statistics (from two years of going out 6 days a week)

• Approaches: 1,216
• Dates: 21
• Makeouts: 6
• Lays: ZERO

Mathematically speaking, if you are going over a wide spectrum of women, and you play a law of averages (meaning knock more doors and you’ll get a result), with a very FLAWED linear technique (which predicates on getting the number, getting the kiss, some bullshit like that), then expect your results of finding, having, and keeping an awesome woman in your life to be ON THE NEGATIVE. Even with 2-3 years of doing this crap, it won’t happen.

That’s why we don’t play that game. Here at TDD, we carefully assess what type of women we want, create a macro and micro plan, create our social networks around it, and control only two variables (how we project ourselves and our logistics), and from there, its damn easy. There is no pressure, anxiety, or what not, because we are for certain that even mathematically speaking we are operating under a Niche of women we want and since we are trained to get the women we want, then that’s what we’re gonna get — in multiples of 10 per month or more.

I’ve met guys who have a miserable lay rate of less than 2 every 7 months, and whether they admit it or not, everyday these guys wake up they are pretty half-assed with their confidence level. They don’t know if women truly like them for who they are, or if they sort of “conned” those 2 women into kissing them or bedding them. What’s worse is that they have to operate to get women in a certain “state” to get a kiss or a reaction or what not. Then it explodes in their face when they realize that women are NOT in state all the time and they are forgotten a few days later after they take a number.

Look, the bottom line is, is that this is a game not worth playing. People who play linear pick up hokey pokey don’t have a shelf life of more than 2 years. Its either they have nothing better to do in life, which is why they’re in it to do the weekend warrior thing, or they truly believe it will work. These guys dissect books, articles, anything to understand the microcosm of the interaction. But really it doesn’t mean a thing. Women don’t care about the verbal back and forth, they want a guy who has his shit down and can attract women because of his being and his leadership abilities.

So, what exactly do you need?

Think Niche Theory: You need to know what women you want, and know that in a specific and realistic manner, and that’s who you go for. Don’t just stick to “smart” or “intelligent” because those traits are relative. Get specific with it, and truly assess deep inside if that’s what you want. Tons of guys “on paper” want the witty type, but sometimes girls like that can be truly annoying (take it from a guy who’s fucked a few dozen). If you ask me, I like a girl who’s comfortable in her own skin and has the confidence to joke around and not get offended. See, that’s specific and realistic. In my old days I met this guy who went to the bookstore doing day game for several years, because he thought he wanted an “intelligent” girl…later when i coached him we both found out that he didn’t want a Math wiz or a PhD holder, he just wanted a girl who was street smart. Boy did he waste seven years. Know where they flock, what social networks they are connected in, and start immersing yourself. More importantly, have FUN with who you want to be with. No one takes pleasure being with a girl they have to constantly prove themselves to, its all about being a girl you’ll be happy with.

For more info on that, read this Classic TDD Post FOCUS AND CONGRUENCY IN WHAT YOU WANT.

Lets look at our Forum Social Elite, Rico, who clearly has dominated the Salsa Niche. I don’t see this guy so often now because he teaches, competes interstate in Congresses, as well as spends around 20+ hours dancing and evolving his craft of self-expression. He’s also got his logistics down (loves the jacuzzi), and so come the house parties (with those pretty girls he pulls from his NICHE). Mofo knows his Niche! Let’s not even talk about this guy’s ridiculous pipeline of hot girls.

Create a Logistical Plan - We all know Logistics is 70-80% of the game, and if you listened to Julian’s podcast, its something that all of us consider first over everything. its also where lifestyle comes in because its where you bring your women into. If you have a pretty empty lifestyle stop for a minute and don’t even try picking up women. There’s no point. Start building a social network, make friends, get into a few hobbies you like, and maybe those things will help you grow some serious balls to escalate.

Stick to ONLY Controlling your VIBE and Logistics - You want pressure off your back? You want all your anxieties relieved? You want to not think and be in your head all the  time? Then stop trying to control women and the situation. Its not spontaneous, and from her perspective you look like a real weird nutcase for thinking about the next step. Look, having the logistical game plan is something that takes LOADS off your back. If you stop caring about controlling the verbiage, her friends, the progression of the interaction and stick to just projecting the right vibes (we have 4 Vibes in TDD - Fun, Charismatic, Sexual and Dominant), then you can pretty much gauge the result of the interaction because of the key TDD concept, X = X (you attract what you project). If you project the fun vibe, girls who want to have fun will latch on, if you switch to sexual, it goes sexual, and so on. Look, women and situations are like sand castles. You try to take sand off the beach and squeeze it, and it falls off the more you do. Forget about it. Just build yourself, master the 4 Vibes and calibrate them when needed and you won’t have to worry about the outcome.

Alright, that’s it for now, talk soon

Troy

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