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“None of these other Dating Coaches’ Reviews Really Stack Up Against TDD” - Private Instruction Client
Hey, when it comes to really getting down to the core stuff that makes men attractive, absolutely NOTHING stacks up to TDD. Remember that even before this “Pick Up Artist” bull**** started, the world’s population grew around 74 Million People PER YEAR in the 20th Century. So before you whip up your best pick up line, your best magic trick to hold her attention, or your best story to increase your value in her eyes (lame), understand people have been procreating successfully and that Pick Up Artists are mere TRENDS.
We don’t believe in trends. We believe in true, evidence-based stuff that has been going on for centuries. Don’t feel bad if you can’t approach a girl because you’re nervous. Its not approach anxiety, its a lack of awareness. You can have the best blitz-style approach without any nervousness, but it doesn’t guarantee you anything after that. We teach guys Awareness - Awareness of self, others, and the playing field - which in my opinion brings you total victory.
Luckily, our cause is long-lasting. Because of multitudes of men that we’ve helped change over the years… and we’re not talking “I got a number from a girl” change, we’re talking COMPLETE Life Improvement change, the word is spread from town to town, country to country, and before I knew it we had new guys that totally did not come from my old company or the past. It was exciting to see that a lot of guys totally related to what TDD had to offer.
Without me finding out, TDD hit Puerto Rican shores. Through our very affordable Champions of Choice Series we are seeing more and more men take a chance and see what the buzz is all about, and our new COC Member Tomi picked up his copy last month. I don’t want to spoil the story for y’all but this is a guy who almost got into the pick up artist thing, and luckily he only needed to download Champions of Choice, because it opened a whole new level of awareness the night he listened to it. It was so good, in fact, that he got IMMEDIATE RESULTS the day after. Btw, his English isn’t at best, so ya gotta give him props for writing this up.
So, without further ado, we present our Puerto Rican TDD Brother, Tomi, and his Review of Champions of Choice
On this video, our TDD crew in Singapore led by Asia Instructor Xavier “Hide” films a classic scenario we do on every Masterclass or Private Instruction Weekend there.
Now, having skills to converse in the day time and escalate it at incredible speeds is GREAT. We don’t recommend doing Day Game hunting for hours, however we believe that OUR Conversations skills (as outlined on the video) are 24/7, meaning you can use them anytime and anywhere. Just like what happened last Private Instruction weekend here in San Antonio, our guy was able to use the SAME skill sets in getting the hostess’ number and a complete hottie in the gym that he thought he could never have a conversation with while being nervous. This complements the 24/7 Lifestyle perfectly because these skills can be used subtly at work, at school, in social events, gyms, and restaurants.
In this scenario, Xavier utilizes and dishes out nearly every TDD Conversational skill set in a huge Borders Bookstore in Singapore. Again these are the same skills that we teach in ALL OUR COMPREHENSIVE PROGRAMS, but thanks to our local TDD Crew in Singapore, you’re getting a copy of it Live in the field.
Also, in light of that, I’m going to answer common program questions we get from Singapore and Asia.
What is the Difference Between Masterclass and Private Instruction ?
Have you seen the Tucker Max trailer? Because every time I watch the thing it makes me want to look forward to today’s debauchery. He kind of reminds me of myself a lot of times!
A bit of background history for new players out there. I have been working with Troy since early 2006 and amidst being an Instructor for the TDD Global Family I am also one of his oldest students, inner-circle confidants, and key wing men. After Three years of teaching back to back boot camps I decided to finally join the team in further pursuit of excellence and will be teaching at the Dubai Comprehensive Camp on November 5-7, 2009, before the year ends with a bang (literally).
In addition, I have been one of the oldest constituents of “Natural Game” when Troy introduced his own science of doing it three years ago. My current local crew, Natural Seduction or NatSed for short, has seen many, many successes in the field over the years, and more importantly, consistent successes, as well as growth socially and independently as people.
Currently, I work as a promoter for a huge club franchise and a business analyst. I have probably met, dated, and slept with more women than you could count your fingers and toes with (times 50), and the women keep coming. I have to say though that the journey wasn’t easy and it took time and hard work to get there. I also write for a few magazines on pertinent dating articles and sex.
It’s really funny that the report I’m going to share with you guys brings me back to reminisce the good old days from two years ago. Its funny when you already have that Social Superpower and you literally go back to where you started and just unleash swaggeriffic mayhem. I don’t know if you guys like College Chicks, but I love em’ to death.
So you want to dominate a College Bar eh? Keep Reading
Hope you guys had an awesome weekend. I’m writing this from San Francisco, where I just finished a Private Instruction weekend. This town is amazing, and truly one of the best places to hook up with women (note I didn’t say talk or take numbers, other pick up artist schools take care of that job for us, we date and fuck women).
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I think everyone will agree with me here that there’s a different way of approaching the huge nightclubs as opposed to the day or bars/lounge scene. A lot of people actually think its HARDER, and I don’t blame em: enormously large “cliquish” groups, gorgeous 8’s, 9’s and 10’s, tons of good looking guys to compete with, and enough loud music and flashy lights that by itself would cockblock the heck out of your game.
But if you’re a TDD guy, you know very well we just piss on this stuff and its shit easy. Find out HOW
So, I remember i met this chick at a little bar before, and just gave her good energy. Interaction didn’t last more than 10 minutes.
See her later after the party and take her number, give her mine, and figure out logistics.
Took her to my favorite sexcalation date, and did. We were having fun, built tension, and thereafter we were sensually making out.
Went back to her place, but an emergency (friend in need), made me not close the deal. She had such a hot body….ugh!
Since then…there’s been this lingering feeling of what “could have happened” in HER mind. We always had great chemistry, I reminded her.
She has a boyfriend now, and is “in love” but apparently she keeps asking me what my schedule is because she wants to get a massage together or see me. I can tell she wants to flip the script by saying “I’ll try to accomodate you” which i find funny because i never asked to be accomodated. With that i just said “cool”…and that I probably will need a place to stay…She wants exact dates on when I’ll be in town.LOL
Take note i never called her proactively or what not. Ahhh…the beauty of a lingering impression and a pipeline.
Speaking of emotional anchors that was a pretty strong one. I think at ANY TIME of my life i can sleep with this girl.
SO, key lesson. Don’t think short run, always think about conveying the right vibes (Fun, dominant, sexual and charismatic), and you’re good to go even if you don’t do ANYTHING.
God I love my Iphone. It used to be just sick, but now, its EPIC sick.
Now I’m able to use it to record some conversations with women. If you own one, all you have to do is download either the “tape me” or “recorder” application and you’re set. If you get some audio email me so we can post some cool conversations on my site. This latest day game one has some good stuff in it for opening. I’d write the rest of it but my fingers might break off. Its kinda long.
Anyhow, due to the sedentary lifestyle I’ve been leading, I decided to get off my ass and practice some day game, which is hardly do because I mostly do bars and clubs as well as social circle game.
Earlier, I created a pretty sick day game opener that works as a preamble AND a personal statement when doing day game on bookstores.
It actually goes like…
ME “You know what I found out about myself after reading that book?”
The advantage for doing that is you’re creating a pre-amble, which takes all of her attention…you are also creating dramatic suspense as she curiously wants to figure the answer, AND you’ve made it personal, so you don’t have to do any “white noise” such as platonic or fluff talk.
Its also cool to check and assess the situation beforehand for a quick second…such as what section of the bookstore is she into? (cookbook section/self improvement/dating/fiction)..THIS TIME it was the cooking section.
Now, based on different situations you can even come up with some real good punch lines if you want to take the flirty/funny route. Just imagine what you’d say after if you saw her reading “Twilight.” I can imagine it going…
ME “You know what I found out about myself after reading that book?”
Her: “What?”
ME: “Never… Bust on Chicks …who love Vampire porno flicks…”
Try it out and get back with me with the results in the field.
So, without further ado, the actual FIELD TEST:
It went perfectly…
ME “You know what I found out about myself after reading that book?”
She looks up at me, with those nice blue eyes of hers and smiles; I see a glow in her face as I set the preamble…
HER “What?”
ME “That I can actually become a home buddy…I’m usually the most out of the house guy but recently…I just enjoy being at home and enjoying some hazelnut coffee watching House reruns”
Take note this is a technique called theDouble Relate: A very powerful technique that I learned while teaching with Wayne Elise in Chicago that I use pretty much every time in conversation. I learned to use two contradicting things and loaded them into one statement, so that whatever her side is she’s trapped to relating to either one. This worked pretty well two because I really look like a super outgoing guy, and by Texas standards I may appear metro-sexual versus in LA where every other cool guy dresses in Cavalli Jeans, Mark Nason Boots and cool leather wrist bands. It was a pretty good disqualifier.
(Laughs)…”Well, I think its okay to stay home”
“It is, I mean there’s like 101 reasons for me to go out…must be the new couch”
(Laughs)
HER “So what do you do?”
I then do some credibility talk…
ME “I own my own business actually… I teach entrepreneurs how to make their ideas work better…Oh, and Apple loves me.”
HER “Very cool…You work for Apple?”
ME “No, my Iphone seems to be my hand-replacement nowadays” (laughs)
“Sometimes though I just wish i was a rock star”
HER “Yeah, definitely…I’m into garments and fashion design….”
The whole interaction flows very smoothly. I do some good rewarding “I like that you’re independent…”
I also end up throwing another of my “Marble Theory” at her (my reliable girlfriend stealing technique) and she takes the bait. She wants to have some coffee soon.
Easy…easy.
Troy
PS: Thanks for all the love I’ve been getting on my Mind Map Series. I really appreciate all the comments and ratings from everybody as well as my new friends from Skype. Social Strategy Mind Map Part 2 — How to Run Tight Group Game is 70% completed and should be in your inboxes shortly. If you’re not on the list, again, subscribe to Skype and add me as a contact (tdtroy10) with your request and your email address.
It was 5 am last night, so to those who saw the updates on my masterlife blog and got hit by the email today, i didn’t have enough in me to even write a detailed report.
**Kudos goes to Stone for actually compiling the 15 or so raunchy photos. He has such a sense of humor on the pic details.
Alright, last night was the Almighty Papa Falcon night. Such a beautiful finish to a slew of ten private coaching sessions in a month. As I’ve said before, my student for this last stint, was Brahmin.
For those who would like to understand why private coaching with me is kind of in demand, check my blog for my post, “Some Serious Thoughts in my head, Part Deux.”
Warm up is so important, especially riffing off your wingman’s success.
I had no doubt that Brahmin would pull off what he did. He was amazing in his sets. If only he knew how to dance that night, his FIRST set, which was a black dressed cutie, would’ve been game over. Needless to say though, his following warm up sets was all that was needed to confirm that I did a good job of relaying the information to him through the seminar and interactive portion of the private coaching session.
Because of that, Yours truly was set to explode. Join me in this wacky adventurous journey as I try to recapture the moment.
We ended up at the Patio area of a very good spot in Austin. Nice ratio of people who were up for a conversation. Music was peaking because of the DJ downstairs blasting that music up.
I remember winging Brahmin into one set which ended up flowing really well. I open another one and it goes really really well. Winged Brahmin again and it went well. The cute waitress who I met last boot camp was giving me the sexy looks, approached me to reconnect our last soiree. I sexily kino her and she loves it. This was done in front of all the chicks around me. In no time another cute waitress jumps in my conversation talking about using some whip on me.
Momentum building, I look at Stripes, Brahmin and P2 (Obviously forum names), and I KNOW I am in “the mode”
I look behind me, and I see a tall-ass, 6′2″, Blonde chick with just this really hot body and a model face dancing off with her friend, a sexily red-dressed brunette. Much Shorter, a 7.5. The photos are at the Alumni forums but if you want to ask how hot this chick is, ask Stripes because he used to work with her before.
I get in the mode. Give my wingman that look of “watch this” and dynamo into the set. Big open with kino. “OMG FINALLY! People who can party!” Both hotties give me HUGE POP (meaning laughter, excitement, i coined the term from professional wrestling), and after that I start my mini-leading, by twisting and turning them and getting in between them. The blonde was so down to dance and all. I teach the one in the red a dual dance move I coined “the yin yang” and she loved it. They are all under my dominance. Some good looking older dude comes in for a sec. I tell blonde “hey is that your dad telling you its late?” She breeds distaste for him. He’s gone. Girl in red goes “Hey can we do a triple yin yang?” She goes into explaining the variation and all three of us (in front of every douschebag around jaws dropped) get into the triple yin yang, by which i give my SOI on the red dressed one “OMG You totally made an awesome variation to my dance move! I love ya!” Blonde butts in “I love you!!!!!” This took around 7 minutes.
I was doing this when I did my usual, “you know what, we’re not for this crowd. we need something better.” Meaning I foreshadow going to this Super club (HELLO ALUMNI WEEKEND!) Tomorrow.
My thoughts were messing with me. Could I really pull this super hot chick this early? A TWO Set at that?!? What if they have friends? Boyfriends? Whatnot?
If anyone of you know me, when in doubt. WOMEN WANT MEN. The escalation window was NOW. Not tomorrow. NOW.
She tells me “Yeah??? Where is that??!?” I’m like “Across the street! Lets go!!!”
As I say this some good looking dude who knows them bring in 5 women. DAMN. I had to make a choice. If I talked to that group that would plant me in more, which would ruin the pull. OR I could just ignore them and start walking. So, walk was what I did. Unbelievably the two girls ignore the dude (who was probably lame with no vibe) and the 5 women and bounced with us! YES!
At this point, Stripes is talking to the chick, and we’re just cracking jokes. We end up at the SUPER CLUB. As we are walking in I could hear the thunderous beats bringing the tempo up notch after notch. it was 11:30-11:45. This means that in time calibration it is important to be “set” into a certain crowd. I had my two girls and my wingmen. We were set.
For obvious reasons, this was going to be a one man show, with neither wingman having the technical capacity to handle such a situation. It was tough, but I knew the ONLY rule of One night stands — Never let the girl out of your sight. Not pushy, but just keep her around. Because of the numerous leading I had done, she was in it.
Thanks to Stripes he mentioned that she had broken up with her boyfriend of 4 years. She just turned 21. So, using that I said something like. Wow, you’re acting really over the top eh? Did you just turn single? She gives me a “YESSS!! f–k relationships!!!” Apparently its this dude from high school of 4 years. Time to move on she says. Hey, who am i to complain. I’m with this super hottie chick and she’s mine in front of everybody.
Then something Godsent happens
Through natural isolation, the girl in the red DISSAPPEARS! Not for 5 or 10 minutes, but the ENTIRE NIGHT! Another window given to me. But before that we would enjoy the night dancing and enjoying the place together. She got up on the pedestal to dance in front of a crowd of onlookers, as I planted myself as her “guy” by doing sexual kino here and there and not moving too far. because of this, women came up to me and started to hit on me. Because I was also confidently dancing on my own knowing the tempo of the DJ’s music, even groups of people invited me to their tables to drink and dance with them. Through that I met a lot of key people that are now inviting me to parties all over town. Watching from the pedestal, I can imagine that as she’s watching this, she sees my social value and my credibility as the guy who pulled her from spot A. It was golden. All i had to do was go back to her, and girls would come hit on me. When I’d come hit on the girls who hit on me, she’d come back to me. As TieGuy would say, “Its a Beautiful Thing.”
Key thing to understand here - at this point you should just let it ride. Do not manipulate the situation or analyze how to control it. Just let it ride.
After last call, and about six shots. We were ready to bounce. I gotta say, I was somewhat wasted at this point. My hotel was 3 blocks away and I did not have the key! (Brahmin did) So, despite the fun walk back, Brahmin, Stripes, and P2 were in the back ensuring I’d get the key.
Some dude was calling her from red dress’ phone. He had me take down the address and get there through cab but since i knew i was almost home. I just said “yeah, yeah I got it” and ignored it. Little did I know that later on that would serve as another crazy thing.
Brahmin and co. finally caught up to us as we were taking silly photos on some garden. Thanks to Brahmins slick high five with the room key in his palm I could move on. After that we did track and field role playing and both sprinted (which thanks to that, cleared out 75% of the way back). Finally we ended up at the hotel room. We both peed like nuts. Then after that we did some more crazy s–t, then in privacy, the super hot blonde laid on my bed, and slowly we made out, and there was a little LMR, but nothing hard that can’t be over come by persistence and barriers. Boom Lay one done. Dominance + fun + sexual presence + being in the moment = LAY.
After clearing that out, her phone rings, and its red dress, and again that dude was on the phone. Demanding a cab ride to that certain address. being that I already nailed her, I had no problems getting her a cab. I was spent, so I took her down (I think she was mooning on the glass elevators. We were wasted as hell) Take her to the cab, and she doesn’t want to leave me! I was like “what?” and she said “No, you’re coming with me!”
We ended up driving to God knows where, and ended up in this dude’s super pimp pad. Like seriously, if i ever had a pimp pad, this would be it. It had EVERYTHING.
So, we ended up in one of the rooms, immediately red dress and Blonde start making out heavily, which ends up in a full on eating fiasco. In the beginning there were too many guys around watching and I had to back out to let the host let em out. I sticked with em because I was obviously curious to see how this was gonna unfold. Then it got real hot where me and the host started joining in. Doors were locked, blinds were shut. We were so into it, that I took 15 crazy photos that they didn’t even care about. Long story short we double f–ked red dress and blondie.
Then the coke guy came out and lines were started. That was my exit out. I fuckin bailed, walked down the street, and got the heck outta dodge. I get to the hotel through a cab, and enjoy debrief with the guys. According to Brahmin, i was smelling like pussy all over.
Again, a beautiful end to a long private coaching run. Thanks to my previous PI students. You guys definitely added to the momentum coming into this. That was probably one of the hottest chicks I’ve nailed, and one of the wildest rollercoaster rides so far. Now its time for a three week vacation with Timmy into Asia. I doubt things will slow down anytime soon.
Me, Filming “The Charismatic Asian Man” for our Colorado Sessions, in Vail.
For me, it’s a real challenge to teach a high-quality workshop while getting the girl. Friday is really heavy on mindsets, foundations, and reality-breakers, and Saturday day game is heavy on creating a conversational connection and insta-dating.
Usually by Saturday night the students are very, very consistent with the core skills that we have learned from Friday night, and Saturday day game. At this point their mindsets are locked, their skill sets are very decent in terms of non-verbals and conversations. Add my lecture and drills on proper winging, and tonight, it’s their party. If anything, I can run game in real-time, without getting interrupted by logistical issues or attending too much individually to the students. This is probably the best demonstration I can give in contrast to the numerous reality-breakers we learned the entire weekend.
There is a certain way of acting in a club that is “learned” This involves the knowledge and practice of movement, social vibing, the understanding of status, doing recon work, and warming up with people.
After doing a few rounds of invisible recon-work, I found a three set to open.
I approach, with
“Why is everyone around here drinking from a pitcher?”
Open, non-verbally face the cutie. I completely Ignore the “vibe killers”
We talked some more, I said something like “everyone here, is either a banker or a lawyer…”
She tells me, “I’m neither…I’m an engineer”
Oh, you’re an engineer! Engineer as in, “logical” engineer?
She tells me, “No, engineer as in strength, engineer.”
Deep Rapport/Theme Mastery — take the word “strength”
“Strength eh? How so?”
I found out she’s an aircraft maintenance engineer for huge planes and I compliment her for that. I told her I found it a turn-on that despite her physical attributes (she was around 5’4”) she gets to fine tune huge aircraft engines. (SOI)
I then related to her about how I live in the US and how I compensate my height for “internal strength”…and go from there… we had this quick deep conversation on that topic.
The whole time I’m showing her how imperfect I am. I’m willing to make a fool out of myself when I’m having fun. I see these two dudes and I try to imitate their “gay” dances and even do the YMCA. This is called social vibing. This is a very attractive nonverbal trait. It just shows that you are relatively unaffected by anything and is all about having fun. This is also about having an Internal Frame of Reference, where I don’t look outside for any approval or validation.
As I am on my students’ time, so I leave and help them out. For the most they are doing fine, so 30 minutes later I re-open her with a student. I tell her “So, what’s happened here since we last talked?” I vibe some more, ultimately gaining more commitment as being the only guy who she had a more solid connection with and clearly justified his interest to her. At this point there are hardly any distractions to this. I eject once more to tend to the students.
I see all my students are doing amazing on the dance floor, and if anything they wanted to see a cold approach seduction happen real-time. So, I come back to the original set. I see her with only her spaghetti-strapped top on (the jacket was nowhere to be found), and she seemed to be a bit loose from the alcohol and the music. Time to calibrate my skill sets around the time-frame (around 1:30 am)
I reopen with “Heeeeey!”
She goes “Heeeeey!” and is happy to see me. The situation has changed. The orbiter dude who did the gay dances is now buying her drinks. It’s the guy from earlier I had vibed with. She tells him she really didn’t want to drink any more, and coaxes me in to drink HIS drinks!
“C’mon! take the drink! Take a drink!”
I tell her that If i did I might actually violate her sexual space.
“C’mon! Its just one!”
That tells me its ON!
So I drink the tequila, actually down 2 more that the orbiter dude buys from me…and I continue talking to her…the whole time the orbiter is grabbing her neck, speaking really really close, basically doing things that would blow himself out without me lifting a finger.
Finally I’ve decided to take her…so without even acknowledging the dude, I say “lets dance”
I take her to the dance floor, do a couple of my pivot-spins to get her isolated, and start ramping the kino. Did a few of my physical game stuff, and the make out was easy. I even carry her up and kiss her supple breasts under the dark corners of the dance floor.
Where does the power of escalation come from? Not from escalating, but from stopping. The guy with the ability to stop when things get hot and heavy gains a higher level of buying temperature and compliance from the girl versus the guy trying to up the ante all the time. I do physical push pulls, then eventually, her friends come in surprised and start blocking me.
Girls “That’s it, were going to the rest room!”
I read the situation and see that she’s not moving at all. Her feet are firmly planted on the ground, so that gives me the confidence that she really has put in enough commitment with me. So I stay non-reactive and hold my ground. (Non-reactivity and handling obstacles and shit tests – Nonverbal material)
I stay there and do nothing, I don’t react, nor do I let her go. I keep talking to her and eventually she tells her friends that she’s fine with me. They leave to the amazement of my students, and we continue the gropage on the dance floor. When things got really hot, I took her back to her friends as I am ready to demonstrate the pull to the students. I vibe more with her friends, and I guess I realized she was already negotiating the pull with them. I test this by walking away slightly. As I reached a few feet away her friend runs after me! She tells me “You! Stay right there! Don’t move!” I give her a light smirk. They negotiate, and her friends allow her to leave with me.
I SOI her once more, and I call out the situation, by giving her my observation that it sucks to be the vibe killer (pointing to one of her friends) in the group. I tell her how when it comes to meeting quality guys, girls aren’t really the friends they seem to be. I told her a story of when I dated multiple girls in one group just to see how they would talk about each other, and how I found out they would bash each other to me. After all that, she tells me “well, it’s too bad, I don’t think she found a great guy tonight.” I tell her “Glad you could agree with me on that.” “I like how you’re the strong one in the group, that despite them being taller, or being visibly more expressive, you’re the REAL strong one because you can make decisions for yourself.” (Referring to her previous actions of shooing her friends away to be alone with me, as well as to her “strength” trait she mentioned earlier.” NOW we were ready to bounce even further. Take note this is a huge club.
I bounce her to a very quiet spot near the exit of the club to show the students, and we start gaining a deeper connection and a heightened physical escalation in our intimate spot. She asks me where I live, and I tell her. We fix logistics and it’s on….
Guys, all the “moves” are already out there for free, but the experience and understanding one gains after taking a live program is the premium for paying for it. Its not the knowledge or the tool-kit, it’s the understanding of the dynamic as well as the proper execution in context to the situation.
There are multiple blind spots that us social coaches can see that you, or that dude giving you advice on the web, simply don’t. I had a student do multiple success interactions, insta-dates, and all in ONE DAY from being a newbie simply by adjusting his vocal delivery and conversational material. Its something even most guys are completely oblivious to. Expect his pod cast interview soon.
That’s it for now folks. Hope you had an awesome Xmas, I know I did.
If i dropped a transcript in this story it will take forever
Key points -
* Girls who are madly in love with their exes are reversible. Just hang in there, keep painting pictures and CONNECT! * Don’t ever stall - talk about random personal stories or OEQ, just don’t stall
I remember opening a chick at the mall who happened to be in the crossroads of her relationship with her ex. She was cute, had a dynamic hairstyle, and perfect teeth.
Apparently the first 5 minutes all she talked about was her ex choosing someone else over her, and how much she loves him, and how he’s so smart, charismatic, blah blah blah…
To segue way to something else i started doing the standard “knowing you” thread and the “I’m not a relationship kind of guy so I can’t help you there.” to cut that off. But she still kept at it. Damn!
SO, next move, OEQ - what do you think are your best qualities?
She said she was smart, sweet and caring
I took “sweet” and told her i liked that…then i segue way into my whole thread of “I’m a free spirit, I’m a tough cookie to break so i want a confident woman in my life…etc etc”
She still went back to the ex thread, so i tell her
So, whats on your ipod playlist?
We talk about music and i tell her how i see life as my one big VIP party…then she tells me “good for you then…i can’t club anymore.” I told her “too bad, you got domesticated, i like girls who can dance.”
Them she proceeded to tell me how she had really bad dates with DJ’s which is why she’s avoided such venues. She told me how they wanted instant relationships, kids, etc etc real quick.
Some I-perspective “theme” threads i used —
“I go to clubs for the music, the girls are just a side benefit.” “Chemistry between two people is inescapable. I know it when i feel it.”
– I paint even MORE pictures…I tell her about what i look for in a girl…blah blah
So, we talked about random stuff after that. Mexican Teledramas, Family, Blu-Ray Discs (Planet Earth is the SHIZZLE!), Korean BBQ, and what not. She tells me how she’s a prankster at work, and she loves making people’s days happy one way or the other.”
I go:
“Thats cool, now if only you weren’t so harassed in public I’d say we’d have a nice conversation over coffee.”
She tells me if we did we’d last 3 hours…
I remember we talked about a couple of more personal things, then i gave her two more genuine compliments…She gives me a flying smack…I go “are we making out?” She goes “maybe, at least in my imagination we are. This is bad.
I said “This is bad, we shouldn’t be doing this, but if we do I want you to be a 10/10 or I’m walking out the door…”
They she sighs…
Troy: “What?”
Her: ” you’re that cavalier guy who sweeps women of their feet huh? My uncles were like that and they tend to womanize a lot.”
Troy: “Thats a little harsh don’t you think? I’m not thinking that far ahead… i think that things just happen naturally between two people when the chemistry is there…
Her: “I’m sorry.”
Troy: i don’t blame you, i get that a lot in London. People think I’m the brash rag tag American-Asian a–hole
Her: “I’m really sorry”
Troy: “Nah, its cool, we’re cool…”
She then dropped a bomb…
“I think lets just be friends”
Wow. its been what, a year and a half? Haven’t heard that in awhile! But it’s okay. Troy D is prepared for whatever comes.
I say
“Hey, why not? As long as you can keep your hands to yourself, thats cool. Tell you what, you’ll be my sushi buddy…then you’ll find me some quality women i can date over here (she goes…okay…)….i want a cool girl to hang out with…make sure she’s interesting, loves music, philosophical, and cute
…oh..and sweet
Her: “Fine, ill make sure…” (visibly looking disappointed)
“I sense you’re being sarcastic. Thats so cute, its sexy and endearing at the same time”
Her: “Why? Am i? Honestly i felt like for a second i wanted to be that girl and not find one for you…”
Troy “Thats why we cant be friends” (with a sly grin)
Her: “How can we be lovers when we’ve just met? I have a feeling if ever we did we’ll have sex and mockery (didn’t get that, so i just ignored it, but whoa she was thinking way forward!)
Troy: like i said, if ever it happens, then cool. if not, then it wont…Its supposed to be natural..relationships are organic, they just grow. you cant force em to just happen overnight makes sense?
Her..”Yup, you’re right.”
Troy: “So, i say we keep in touch, get to know each other better, and then when i head out ill call you and we can go from there.”
Her: “Okay, I will”
Troy: “awesome, you’re a cool lady Leigh. if you weren’t so far I’d kiss you right now”
No objections…I gaze at her, and get a light kiss on the lips.
She grabs my email and phone number real quick, we head out to look at some shops, and I have no doubt in my mind this relationship will go further.
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