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2
June
2008

HB10 Pull + Orgy FULL FIELD REPORT

It was 5 am last night, so to those who saw the updates on my masterlife blog and got hit by the email today, i didn’t have enough in me to even write a detailed report.

**Kudos goes to Stone for actually compiling the 15 or so raunchy photos. He has such a sense of humor on the pic details.

Alright, last night was the Almighty Papa Falcon night. Such a beautiful finish to a slew of ten private coaching sessions in a month. As I’ve said before, my student for this last stint, was Brahmin.

For those who would like to understand why private coaching with me is kind of in demand, check my blog for my post, “Some Serious Thoughts in my head, Part Deux.”

Warm up is so important, especially riffing off your wingman’s success.

I had no doubt that Brahmin would pull off what he did. He was amazing in his sets. If only he knew how to dance that night, his FIRST set, which was a black dressed cutie, would’ve been game over. Needless to say though, his following warm up sets was all that was needed to confirm that I did a good job of relaying the information to him through the seminar and interactive portion of the private coaching session.

Because of that, Yours truly was set to explode. Join me in this wacky adventurous journey as I try to recapture the moment.

We ended up at the Patio area of a very good spot in Austin. Nice ratio of people who were up for a conversation. Music was peaking because of the DJ downstairs blasting that music up.

I remember winging Brahmin into one set which ended up flowing really well. I open another one and it goes really really well. Winged Brahmin again and it went well. The cute waitress who I met last boot camp was giving me the sexy looks, approached me to reconnect our last soiree. I sexily kino her and she loves it. This was done in front of all the chicks around me. In no time another cute waitress jumps in my conversation talking about using some whip on me.

Momentum building, I look at Stripes, Brahmin and P2 (Obviously forum names), and I KNOW I am in “the mode”

I look behind me, and I see a tall-ass, 6′2″, Blonde chick with just this really hot body and a model face dancing off with her friend, a sexily red-dressed brunette. Much Shorter, a 7.5. The photos are at the Alumni forums but if you want to ask how hot this chick is, ask Stripes because he used to work with her before.

I get in the mode. Give my wingman that look of “watch this” and dynamo into the set. Big open with kino. “OMG FINALLY! People who can party!” Both hotties give me HUGE POP (meaning laughter, excitement, i coined the term from professional wrestling), and after that I start my mini-leading, by twisting and turning them and getting in between them. The blonde was so down to dance and all. I teach the one in the red a dual dance move I coined “the yin yang” and she loved it. They are all under my dominance. Some good looking older dude comes in for a sec. I tell blonde “hey is that your dad telling you its late?” She breeds distaste for him. He’s gone. Girl in red goes “Hey can we do a triple yin yang?” She goes into explaining the variation and all three of us (in front of every douschebag around jaws dropped) get into the triple yin yang, by which i give my SOI on the red dressed one “OMG You totally made an awesome variation to my dance move! I love ya!” Blonde butts in “I love you!!!!!” This took around 7 minutes.

I was doing this when I did my usual, “you know what, we’re not for this crowd. we need something better.” Meaning I foreshadow going to this Super club (HELLO ALUMNI WEEKEND!) Tomorrow.

My thoughts were messing with me. Could I really pull this super hot chick this early? A TWO Set at that?!? What if they have friends? Boyfriends? Whatnot?

If anyone of you know me, when in doubt. WOMEN WANT MEN. The escalation window was NOW. Not tomorrow. NOW.

She tells me “Yeah??? Where is that??!?” I’m like “Across the street! Lets go!!!”

As I say this some good looking dude who knows them bring in 5 women. DAMN. I had to make a choice. If I talked to that group that would plant me in more, which would ruin the pull. OR I could just ignore them and start walking. So, walk was what I did. Unbelievably the two girls ignore the dude (who was probably lame with no vibe) and the 5 women and bounced with us! YES!

At this point, Stripes is talking to the chick, and we’re just cracking jokes. We end up at the SUPER CLUB. As we are walking in I could hear the thunderous beats bringing the tempo up notch after notch. it was 11:30-11:45. This means that in time calibration it is important to be “set” into a certain crowd. I had my two girls and my wingmen. We were set.

For obvious reasons, this was going to be a one man show, with neither wingman having the technical capacity to handle such a situation. It was tough, but I knew the ONLY rule of One night stands — Never let the girl out of your sight. Not pushy, but just keep her around. Because of the numerous leading I had done, she was in it.

Thanks to Stripes he mentioned that she had broken up with her boyfriend of 4 years. She just turned 21. So, using that I said something like. Wow, you’re acting really over the top eh? Did you just turn single? She gives me a “YESSS!! f–k relationships!!!” Apparently its this dude from high school of 4 years. Time to move on she says. Hey, who am i to complain. I’m with this super hottie chick and she’s mine in front of everybody.

Then something Godsent happens

Through natural isolation, the girl in the red DISSAPPEARS! Not for 5 or 10 minutes, but the ENTIRE NIGHT! Another window given to me. But before that we would enjoy the night dancing and enjoying the place together. She got up on the pedestal to dance in front of a crowd of onlookers, as I planted myself as her “guy” by doing sexual kino here and there and not moving too far. because of this, women came up to me and started to hit on me. Because I was also confidently dancing on my own knowing the tempo of the DJ’s music, even groups of people invited me to their tables to drink and dance with them. Through that I met a lot of key people that are now inviting me to parties all over town. Watching from the pedestal, I can imagine that as she’s watching this, she sees my social value and my credibility as the guy who pulled her from spot A. It was golden. All i had to do was go back to her, and girls would come hit on me. When I’d come hit on the girls who hit on me, she’d come back to me. As TieGuy would say, “Its a Beautiful Thing.”

Key thing to understand here - at this point you should just let it ride. Do not manipulate the situation or analyze how to control it. Just let it ride.

After last call, and about six shots. We were ready to bounce. I gotta say, I was somewhat wasted at this point. My hotel was 3 blocks away and I did not have the key! (Brahmin did) So, despite the fun walk back, Brahmin, Stripes, and P2 were in the back ensuring I’d get the key.

Some dude was calling her from red dress’ phone. He had me take down the address and get there through cab but since i knew i was almost home. I just said “yeah, yeah I got it” and ignored it. Little did I know that later on that would serve as another crazy thing.

Brahmin and co. finally caught up to us as we were taking silly photos on some garden. Thanks to Brahmins slick high five with the room key in his palm I could move on. After that we did track and field role playing and both sprinted (which thanks to that, cleared out 75% of the way back). Finally we ended up at the hotel room. We both peed like nuts. Then after that we did some more crazy s–t, then in privacy, the super hot blonde laid on my bed, and slowly we made out, and there was a little LMR, but nothing hard that can’t be over come by persistence and barriers. Boom Lay one done. Dominance + fun + sexual presence + being in the moment = LAY.

After clearing that out, her phone rings, and its red dress, and again that dude was on the phone. Demanding a cab ride to that certain address. being that I already nailed her, I had no problems getting her a cab. I was spent, so I took her down (I think she was mooning on the glass elevators. We were wasted as hell) Take her to the cab, and she doesn’t want to leave me! I was like “what?” and she said “No, you’re coming with me!”

We ended up driving to God knows where, and ended up in this dude’s super pimp pad. Like seriously, if i ever had a pimp pad, this would be it. It had EVERYTHING.

So, we ended up in one of the rooms, immediately red dress and Blonde start making out heavily, which ends up in a full on eating fiasco. In the beginning there were too many guys around watching and I had to back out to let the host let em out. I sticked with em because I was obviously curious to see how this was gonna unfold. Then it got real hot where me and the host started joining in. Doors were locked, blinds were shut. We were so into it, that I took 15 crazy photos that they didn’t even care about. Long story short we double f–ked red dress and blondie.

Then the coke guy came out and lines were started. That was my exit out. I fuckin bailed, walked down the street, and got the heck outta dodge. I get to the hotel through a cab, and enjoy debrief with the guys. According to Brahmin, i was smelling like pussy all over.

Again, a beautiful end to a long private coaching run. Thanks to my previous PI students. You guys definitely added to the momentum coming into this. That was probably one of the hottest chicks I’ve nailed, and one of the wildest rollercoaster rides so far. Now its time for a three week vacation with Timmy into Asia. I doubt things will slow down anytime soon.

Cheers

Troy

26
December
2007

Workshop Field Notes — Why you should take one.

Me, Filming “The Charismatic Asian Man” for our Colorado Sessions, in Vail.

For me, it’s a real challenge to teach a high-quality workshop while getting the girl. Friday is really heavy on mindsets, foundations, and reality-breakers, and Saturday day game is heavy on creating a conversational connection and insta-dating.

Usually by Saturday night the students are very, very consistent with the core skills that we have learned from Friday night, and Saturday day game. At this point their mindsets are locked, their skill sets are very decent in terms of non-verbals and conversations. Add my lecture and drills on proper winging, and tonight, it’s their party. If anything, I can run game in real-time, without getting interrupted by logistical issues or attending too much individually to the students. This is probably the best demonstration I can give in contrast to the numerous reality-breakers we learned the entire weekend.

There is a certain way of acting in a club that is “learned” This involves the knowledge and practice of movement, social vibing, the understanding of status, doing recon work, and warming up with people.

After doing a few rounds of invisible recon-work, I found a three set to open.

I approach, with

“Why is everyone around here drinking from a pitcher?”

Open, non-verbally face the cutie. I completely Ignore the “vibe killers”

We talked some more, I said something like “everyone here, is either a banker or a lawyer…”

She tells me, “I’m neither…I’m an engineer”

Oh, you’re an engineer! Engineer as in, “logical” engineer?

She tells me, “No, engineer as in strength, engineer.”

Deep Rapport/Theme Mastery — take the word “strength”

“Strength eh? How so?”

I found out she’s an aircraft maintenance engineer for huge planes and I compliment her for that. I told her I found it a turn-on that despite her physical attributes (she was around 5’4”) she gets to fine tune huge aircraft engines. (SOI)

I then related to her about how I live in the US and how I compensate my height for “internal strength”…and go from there… we had this quick deep conversation on that topic.

The whole time I’m showing her how imperfect I am. I’m willing to make a fool out of myself when I’m having fun. I see these two dudes and I try to imitate their “gay” dances and even do the YMCA. This is called social vibing. This is a very attractive nonverbal trait. It just shows that you are relatively unaffected by anything and is all about having fun. This is also about having an Internal Frame of Reference, where I don’t look outside for any approval or validation.

As I am on my students’ time, so I leave and help them out. For the most they are doing fine, so 30 minutes later I re-open her with a student. I tell her “So, what’s happened here since we last talked?” I vibe some more, ultimately gaining more commitment as being the only guy who she had a more solid connection with and clearly justified his interest to her. At this point there are hardly any distractions to this. I eject once more to tend to the students.

I see all my students are doing amazing on the dance floor, and if anything they wanted to see a cold approach seduction happen real-time. So, I come back to the original set. I see her with only her spaghetti-strapped top on (the jacket was nowhere to be found), and she seemed to be a bit loose from the alcohol and the music. Time to calibrate my skill sets around the time-frame (around 1:30 am)

I reopen with “Heeeeey!”

She goes “Heeeeey!” and is happy to see me. The situation has changed. The orbiter dude who did the gay dances is now buying her drinks. It’s the guy from earlier I had vibed with. She tells him she really didn’t want to drink any more, and coaxes me in to drink HIS drinks!

“C’mon! take the drink! Take a drink!”

I tell her that If i did I might actually violate her sexual space.

“C’mon! Its just one!”

That tells me its ON!

So I drink the tequila, actually down 2 more that the orbiter dude buys from me…and I continue talking to her…the whole time the orbiter is grabbing her neck, speaking really really close, basically doing things that would blow himself out without me lifting a finger.

Finally I’ve decided to take her…so without even acknowledging the dude, I say “lets dance”

I take her to the dance floor, do a couple of my pivot-spins to get her isolated, and start ramping the kino. Did a few of my physical game stuff, and the make out was easy. I even carry her up and kiss her supple breasts under the dark corners of the dance floor.

Where does the power of escalation come from? Not from escalating, but from stopping. The guy with the ability to stop when things get hot and heavy gains a higher level of buying temperature and compliance from the girl versus the guy trying to up the ante all the time. I do physical push pulls, then eventually, her friends come in surprised and start blocking me.

Girls “That’s it, were going to the rest room!”

I read the situation and see that she’s not moving at all. Her feet are firmly planted on the ground, so that gives me the confidence that she really has put in enough commitment with me. So I stay non-reactive and hold my ground. (Non-reactivity and handling obstacles and shit tests – Nonverbal material)

I stay there and do nothing, I don’t react, nor do I let her go. I keep talking to her and eventually she tells her friends that she’s fine with me. They leave to the amazement of my students, and we continue the gropage on the dance floor. When things got really hot, I took her back to her friends as I am ready to demonstrate the pull to the students. I vibe more with her friends, and I guess I realized she was already negotiating the pull with them. I test this by walking away slightly. As I reached a few feet away her friend runs after me! She tells me “You! Stay right there! Don’t move!” I give her a light smirk. They negotiate, and her friends allow her to leave with me.

I SOI her once more, and I call out the situation, by giving her my observation that it sucks to be the vibe killer (pointing to one of her friends) in the group. I tell her how when it comes to meeting quality guys, girls aren’t really the friends they seem to be. I told her a story of when I dated multiple girls in one group just to see how they would talk about each other, and how I found out they would bash each other to me. After all that, she tells me “well, it’s too bad, I don’t think she found a great guy tonight.” I tell her “Glad you could agree with me on that.” “I like how you’re the strong one in the group, that despite them being taller, or being visibly more expressive, you’re the REAL strong one because you can make decisions for yourself.” (Referring to her previous actions of shooing her friends away to be alone with me, as well as to her “strength” trait she mentioned earlier.” NOW we were ready to bounce even further. Take note this is a huge club.

I bounce her to a very quiet spot near the exit of the club to show the students, and we start gaining a deeper connection and a heightened physical escalation in our intimate spot. She asks me where I live, and I tell her. We fix logistics and it’s on….

Guys, all the “moves” are already out there for free, but the experience and understanding one gains after taking a live program is the premium for paying for it. Its not the knowledge or the tool-kit, it’s the understanding of the dynamic as well as the proper execution in context to the situation.

There are multiple blind spots that us social coaches can see that you, or that dude giving you advice on the web, simply don’t. I had a student do multiple success interactions, insta-dates, and all in ONE DAY from being a newbie simply by adjusting his vocal delivery and conversational material. Its something even most guys are completely oblivious to. Expect his pod cast interview soon.

That’s it for now folks. Hope you had an awesome Xmas, I know I did.

Troy

14
December
2007

Connecting with Women — I’m a Believer!

If i dropped a transcript in this story it will take forever

Key points -

* Girls who are madly in love with their exes are reversible. Just hang in there, keep painting pictures and CONNECT! * Don’t ever stall - talk about random personal stories or OEQ, just don’t stall

I remember opening a chick at the mall who happened to be in the crossroads of her relationship with her ex. She was cute, had a dynamic hairstyle, and perfect teeth.

Apparently the first 5 minutes all she talked about was her ex choosing someone else over her, and how much she loves him, and how he’s so smart, charismatic, blah blah blah…

To segue way to something else i started doing the standard “knowing you” thread and the “I’m not a relationship kind of guy so I can’t help you there.” to cut that off. But she still kept at it. Damn!

SO, next move, OEQ - what do you think are your best qualities?

She said she was smart, sweet and caring

I took “sweet” and told her i liked that…then i segue way into my whole thread of “I’m a free spirit, I’m a tough cookie to break so i want a confident woman in my life…etc etc”

She still went back to the ex thread, so i tell her

So, whats on your ipod playlist?

We talk about music and i tell her how i see life as my one big VIP party…then she tells me “good for you then…i can’t club anymore.” I told her “too bad, you got domesticated, i like girls who can dance.”

Them she proceeded to tell me how she had really bad dates with DJ’s which is why she’s avoided such venues. She told me how they wanted instant relationships, kids, etc etc real quick.

Some I-perspective “theme” threads i used —

“I go to clubs for the music, the girls are just a side benefit.” “Chemistry between two people is inescapable. I know it when i feel it.”

– I paint even MORE pictures…I tell her about what i look for in a girl…blah blah

So, we talked about random stuff after that. Mexican Teledramas, Family, Blu-Ray Discs (Planet Earth is the SHIZZLE!), Korean BBQ, and what not. She tells me how she’s a prankster at work, and she loves making people’s days happy one way or the other.”

I go:

“Thats cool, now if only you weren’t so harassed in public I’d say we’d have a nice conversation over coffee.”

She tells me if we did we’d last 3 hours…lol

I remember we talked about a couple of more personal things, then i gave her two more genuine compliments…She gives me a flying smack…I go “are we making out?” She goes “maybe, at least in my imagination we are. This is bad.

I said “This is bad, we shouldn’t be doing this, but if we do I want you to be a 10/10 or I’m walking out the door…”

They she sighs…

Troy: “What?”

Her: ” you’re that cavalier guy who sweeps women of their feet huh? My uncles were like that and they tend to womanize a lot.”

Troy: “Thats a little harsh don’t you think? I’m not thinking that far ahead… i think that things just happen naturally between two people when the chemistry is there…

Her: “I’m sorry.”

Troy: i don’t blame you, i get that a lot in London. People think I’m the brash rag tag American-Asian a–hole

Her: “I’m really sorry”

Troy: “Nah, its cool, we’re cool…”

She then dropped a bomb…

“I think lets just be friends”

Wow. its been what, a year and a half? Haven’t heard that in awhile! But it’s okay. Troy D is prepared for whatever comes.

I say

“Hey, why not? As long as you can keep your hands to yourself, thats cool. Tell you what, you’ll be my sushi buddy…then you’ll find me some quality women i can date over here (she goes…okay…)….i want a cool girl to hang out with…make sure she’s interesting, loves music, philosophical, and cute

…oh..and sweet

Her: “Fine, ill make sure…” (visibly looking disappointed)

“I sense you’re being sarcastic. Thats so cute, its sexy and endearing at the same time”

Her: “Why? Am i? Honestly i felt like for a second i wanted to be that girl and not find one for you…”

Troy “Thats why we cant be friends” (with a sly grin)

Her: “How can we be lovers when we’ve just met? I have a feeling if ever we did we’ll have sex and mockery (didn’t get that, so i just ignored it, but whoa she was thinking way forward!)

Troy: like i said, if ever it happens, then cool. if not, then it wont…Its supposed to be natural..relationships are organic, they just grow. you cant force em to just happen overnight makes sense?

Her..”Yup, you’re right.”

Troy: “So, i say we keep in touch, get to know each other better, and then when i head out ill call you and we can go from there.”

Her: “Okay, I will”

Troy: “awesome, you’re a cool lady Leigh. if you weren’t so far I’d kiss you right now”

No objections…I gaze at her, and get a light kiss on the lips.

She grabs my email and phone number real quick, we head out to look at some shops, and I have no doubt in my mind this relationship will go further.

As Johnny Drama from Entourage would say…

“VICTORY!”

Happy Holidays, guys

Troy

22
November
2007

LR: Unexpected Early Thanksgiving

Some of you might know that i also do online, social network game. I just got home from the club and there were two hotties who came up to me, and knew me from myspace. I thought it was cool and there was indeed social proof and we owned that place. Anyhow, back to the story:

I usually have the same copy paste message on myspace. The message has some variations to it, but is really a DQ statement with an SOI. A DQ statement because you want to lower the defense barriers online by making a funny comment about yourself or how you’re not really sure about this whole internet thing. Trust me, it works the same as a DQ in real life. My version is: “No, i don’t have any pets and you may think I suck for that, but if i did have one, I’d have a Maltese.”

I always get the response of “I don’t think you suck for having a pet. Oh, Maltese is a good choice!”

Another thing is, i don’t chat on myspace. I get them to call me. I don’t waste time, batting average is about 1 response in 15 reads.

Anyhow, I get home around 2, and am ready to crash, when i get this message (Exact transcript is as follows)

Hey, Its Johanna from myspace

(2 PM, this chick must be doing NOTHING)

Take note i just got a new phone, so my phone book hasn’t been transferred and all these random numbers started popping up wishing me a happy thanksgiving

Troy - Oh hey Johanna, thats nice of you to send thanksgiving wishes out. What are your plans for the long weekend?

(Then i realize it wasn’t her who texted me the wishes)

- OOps i got it mixed up sorry. I just got me the iphone and I still haven’t moved the entire phonebook

J - OK

Troy - What are your plans after 5?

J - Not sure, i haven’t made any yet

Troy - I’m going to head out for some drinks after. Come tag along if you haven’t made plans

J - Where at?

Troy - At XXPlace, you know where that is?

J - Nope

Troy - Its on XX road, which part of town are you at?

J - Northwest

Troy - OK well if you wanna hang out let me know maybe I can drop by and pick you up before heading out there. Whats your addy?

J - XXXXXXAddress XXXApartment (!) What time would that be? I’m not sure yet

Troy - A bit later in the night, say 10. What are you doing right now?

J - Nothing…You?

Troy - Chilling at my house, have you seen Super bad or American gangster yet?

J - Superbad

Troy - Cool. Well I have American gangster on DVD, lets go watch it at your apartment. I haven’t seen it either

J - OK What time

Troy - 4 Sound Good?

J - Okay, let me know when you’re near

— JUST LIKE THAT. So i run straight to the showers and head out there. I get there and she lives with her brother, who, turns out is gay so i didn’t have a problem. I actually think he also liked me.

I just stayed on, until the bro left. Just kept it cool, watched shows, ran standard Juggler Method, SOI’s and escalation, then did the kiss (she goes I don’t kiss on the first date! I go, well! then kiss her) and with the brother out of the picture, a few isolated moments in her room sealed the deal.

Great day!

Troy

9
November
2007

FR: San Antonio Club Kings

Club Kings Field Report, and another Solid Set.

We walk into the club, we’re dangerous. I’ve always held myself to that standard.

I have 2 hours before I go to work, and I am crazy for going out. But that’s what its all about. Pushing boundaries. Your body is biologically made to pull you from edging out and will keep brining you into your comfort zone. To keep improving you must train your mind and body to edge out and break boundaries. So it’s a Thursday, and I head out with my friend, to be joined by two of Tim’s Alumni, Trent and Ryan.

We get to the club – its loungy, classy, currently playing house music. Time for the warm up.

Thing about me is I don’t walk and pace straight to a set. I’ll usually work off a tangent of an existing set (say, my friends) and turn around to open another set. I had future clients hang out with me as well, so it was easy to work off from where they were.

I turn around, then walk slowly and open a 5-Set – “Wow, its Thursday I never thought this bar would be packed!”

Birthday girl – “Its my birthday today!”

Cool blah blah blah Its my birthday on Saturday! That guy with us XXX its his birthday today too! Blah blah blah I’m Troy….

Birthday girl – “wait, are you Troy??! Like Troy!??!”

I’m like, “oh f–k who is this girl and which cousin of hers did I sleep with”

Troy?!? I’m SO and so’s sister! OMG!

She was my old lairmate’s sister when I used to run the lair back in the day. She tells me that her bro didn’t want her to meet up with us because we’d hit on them. I laugh it out. This fuels me to do it even more. It’s a FIVE SET. And there were 3 hotties. I see HBBigTits really calm, relaxed but had a radiant smile. Perfect teeth, nice Latina eyes, and soft-looking lips. I know immediately who I’m interested in.

My buddy opens up HBBigTits in perfect syncronization, which is perfect, then we alternate.

I tell her “you’re pretty chill” she tells me she had a long day blah blah…and I tell her about my long day in the hospital, long hours…etc (obviously now she’s interested…)

Then I SOI off the bat – “you know what, I commend you. We’ve both had long days and you were tired but instead of being a couch potato you dressed up real sexy (SOI in an SOI), didn’t mind about your body being tired, and hauled your ass up here. You are a warrior! I like that!”

Then I go into my story on comfort zones and breaking them (Sometimes I feel like im teaching a workshop when I’m out meeting women), this would all be a prerequisite to one ULTIMATE theme – RISK TAKING. So there’s five of them and I don’t even make a move on the remaining three.

Tip: You don’t have to get everyone in the set going if two or three of them are DOWNERS. I’m talking about those stone faced girls with a really down vibe. Ignore them. A real man would not put up with that. Continue on with the good vibe part of the group.

So I have HBBigTits and Birthday girl. I leave for a second and brief my friends on what’s going on. I’ve chosen the girl. Question is, I need a reason to warrant my interest in her. Later on I see her eyeing me from across the bar. I make a face, and I reopen the set, which is warm at this point.

“I have an intuition about you….” I say and leave open. “What? What’s your intuition about me?!?” I tell her that she has a good aura, a good energy, and in a moment I’ll need her to explain to me why. I bust on the birthday girl as HBBigTits is patiently waiting for the answer, with a big smile.

Thank God for female self-isolation. When you exude that cool, real man vibe and you don’t f–k it up, the friends are comfortable leaving the two of you, and that’s exactly what happened. They left us alone but were within distance. I lean my back at the bar and start throwing out my OEQ’s – passion, positivity..hobbies…adventures…bottom line, what makes her UNIQUE.

I check for relationship situation — she has a boy-feind. Sorry, im just not fazed by that stuff anymore.

I check for how close she comes to my mouth when she’s talking to me. Pretty damn close, like kiss-perimeter close. I keep that in mind. That’s a good thing.

I’ve warranted it now, but it’s not enough. I need more effort and commitment from her.

I tell her we should get a drink (which was a few paces from the bar). I talk some more about my life experiences, which further gives her an idea of who I am. I keep reiterating that it’s so hard to get motivated here in Texas, and that to be able to have a great life here people need someone special to motivate them (hint! Hint!). Obviously she’s like “YEAH!” She is now understanding my values and agreeing to them. This is all a ladder that goes up to that Uniqueness from her that warrants my SOI. We order a couple of Malibus. She loves the drink and tells me about liquid cocaine. I tell her a story about how my ex girlfriend would mess me up with some Tequila to take advantage of me…and a story about my friend Chris who recently tried Absinthe in Canada.

Boom – Rnb and Hip Hop Plays. Time to shut up.

She starts moving, and I reciprocate. Oh it gets sexual real quick, and having dancing experience, I KNOW that the physical indicators aren’t fake. I’ve seen enough of them to know which ones are weak and strong. So she puts her hands on my body, just caressing it, she goes down, and literally I get a T*T job while I’m standing up. Obviously I reward that with “you dance so sexy, where’d you learn how to dance?” More kino checklist, I smell her and her perfume is just….oh man….I tell her it turns me on, I have her smell my neck…lips are touching…oh yeah it’s on. Time for ONE FINAL LEAD and ONE S.O.I.

I lead her one more time, but this time we end up at one of the lounge couches, in which I KNOW its game over. We have a little chat, and its time for me to escalate. She tells me I’d look good with a hat on, and I tell her about my extensive hats and trinket collection from my travels.  I have her give me a nice back massage, and I do the same (obviously I do it way better)…I release the tension, and I tell her “So what’s sexy to you?” She says “I like guys with glasses.” Whatever. I Ignore. Super Irrelevant. “You know what’s sexy to me??” She goes what? I say “the last girl that truly turned me on was a Swede, now if I took her to New York she’d be like super hot, but in Sweden she’s just like everybody. This whole concept of looks is so relative, it all boils down to ONE THING. She says “What?”

I go “What’s sexy to me, are RISK TAKERS”

That’s all it took, she smiled, she knew it, she looks at my lips, and we start kissing passionately in isolation. Her lips are real sweet and soft, just as I envisioned it to feel like.

I stand her back up, and we make plans. We swap numbers and I foreshadow logistics for the future. Whether or not she really has a boyfriend, I think it was just some test, because she never ever brought it up again other than that one time.

I walk her to her car, and make a good exit (by making her feel comfortable, and more foreshadowing)…we kiss again, and we part ways.

I then debrief with Alumnus Trent and Ryan.

Great Night!

Troy

10
October
2007

FR: Got Pulled By Asian Model Pt 1.

So anyhow, off to Singapore…rich rich country. Exchange rate, 1 USD = 1 Sing Dollar. Taxi Cabs are either Benzo E or S Classes. Holy smokes. Super clean, super high-class. Hotels here are the bizzomb. You constantly see S Class Benzo’s and Lamborghini Galliardos (2,3x their price here) zooming past.

Reverse Bungee, Me on the lower left

OK Onto the lessons of the night: Possibly one of the biggest traits of being a good ladies man/player/natural is the mindset that occurs when dealing with the unknown.

So im off to another country. Another totally different place, different culture, but the base commonality wherever i go, is that PEOPLE ARE PEOPLE. There is no changing that. THAT is why Charisma Arts IMO always works in context to the situation because we zoom in the REAL person ASAP (and put our real selves out there in the process) versus a piranha-like cutter style which tries to get attraction via an unsustainable buying temperature method. Whenever i go out, that is my mission. Get the girl to put her real self out there as soon as possible.

So i meet my guides, members of the Singapore Lair, and they take me out to this ritzy lounge in Clark Qui (thats how its called). As soon as i walk in, the place looked like a private club in Vegas or something. Filled with a lot of beautiful people. The women were mostly model-types, and the guys were mostly greek-body, solid-jaw looking types. I am not deterred. I see the person, not the facade.

I warm up to a total of 2 sets before it started kicking in. One three set near my hotel, who chased us down for a re-engage, and one model in that bar. This is where the matrix-eye starts seeing things. I see a five set of all models. One of my ways to engage a group is called “the weakest link”…usually in the group in a split second moment there is one or two people either bored out of their brains, or are not part of the current group convo. You cannot think for an opener for this, you have to appear out of nowhere or else by the time you get there the situation has changed. so *POOF* i see the weakest link in the 5 set (who is apparently the hottest one — super pretty, tight body, sipping a martini), and all i say is “hi!” with a warm vibe

so, howz ur night going?

We just got back from a private house party, it was boring. people just in clusters and groups…ugh

haha i remember when i would get invited to that…it felt like first year college to me! blah blah blah talk

She says “yeah i dont like it when people are always in their comfort zones…they’re not fun….i always try to bring fun in a party…” (is she teaching a seminar? lol)

You seem like a fun person, whats the story behind that?

Turns out she is one of the biggest event planners in Singapore. She is also a model. She told me about how she hired the best fire dancers of singapore and this famous DJ in the states flew him over for her aloha party. She told me about how their easter bash was when she had all these people where white and yellow…and a whole load of her parties. I am impressed and i tell her that.

“i can understand how creative you have to be to do these types of theme parties…i like that about you…

BOOM it keeps going. I dont even have to ask questions and she dishes out all the info. I am probably one of the few people in her life of superficial friends who can actually see the effort she puts in these events.

So on my end of the deal i tell her how i felt when i first got in singapore, how ritzy i found the club, and how much i now truly regret staying for only 4 days after seeing what the place and the people have to offer.

I dont even have to ask an open ended question, i just pause and she reciprocates

At one point we were talking about our lives, how life can end at any moment and how we should live it to the fullest with our talents, sharing our blessings with people, and we also talk about how we both love twister big_smile THE FOCUS BUBBLE IS ON. No interference, nothing exists, just me…and her…..the Singapore Lair guy tries to get in the convo, but it is too deep for him to even sink his teeth into. We are in a deep personal convo.

Whats even crazier is that she is a plastic surgery nurse by trade! i tell her im a nurse too, and BOOM another window of convo. So i tell her how im a lifestyle artist/traveller on the weekends and a nurse by trade as well. This really got it going as well for both of us.

At one point of the convo I mention to her…you know what, i think you have this danger element about you, whats the most dangerous thing youve done?

*Pause*

I actually stole some stuff!

ME: What?!? you’re kidding me. what do you mean?

So she tells me this story about she felt dangerous stealing a bottle of liquor and hiding it through her friend and that there was even a getaway car and all. Funny-ass story the way she said it. i reciprocate by telling her how i stole some star wars toys off of Target when i was 12. We both loved the convo piece.

I remember SOI’ing again.

THEN, its time to amp it up. TIME TO GO SEXUAL

Out of nowhere i ask — So what’s sexy to you?

***PAUSE****….she has this smirk in her face….i hold vacuum

I want to be a dominatrix

*Poof we start talking about sexual stuff now. the window is open. We are both getting turned on by our sexual convo. So, with that being said i can only amp it up BUT i need to fix the logistics.

ME: Hey, so i heard in Singapore unless youre married 99% of single women still live with their parents is that correct?

HER: Yes blah blah blah explanation

ME:So, if we were to have sex, how the heck can that happen??

HER:Well, either you have to meet mom and dad, or shhhhhhhh, slowly creep to the room (I laugh hard)

ME: You know what, when i used to live with my parents, i can honestly say the sex was better when it was dangerous and on the down low like that!

HER: Yeah, me too! blah blah blah

I told her that i had more sex in my car in college than in my bedroom. She shares some of her things. Mad props to our cab driver who liked us so much that he dished out all the rules of engagement with singapore women!

So, if we were to, how would that happen?

HER: We’d have to get a hotel room, or my place!

ME: (Establishing sexual barrier. GO –> STOP) you know what lemme tell you about how i found my hotel fuckin awesome, it had a doorbell…weird lights…blah blah *Break tension but foreshadow Logistics

HER: OMG at XXXX Hotel??? I live really near there! (Logistics SET!)

So we talk about day 2 plans sunday for coffee in front of my hotel. we exchange numbers and all, and get back to convo. At one point i feel she had to say hi to some of her friends so i let her go. Within five minutes again i see her bored out of her brains so i *tap tap and she goes back to me.

HER: These Models are so boring

ME: I Agree, fluffheads. I want to have fun with you. how do we do that?

HER: I know a place, you ready to go?

ME: (Rattled looking for my wing) uhh…wait a moment…i look for him, cant find him…he’ll be fine he’s with another lair dude. So, i pick up one lair dude (bewildered at this point) and we bounce.

We end up at this cool-ass club (ritzy as always)…she goes straight through the line, we did not pay, got stamped, and we are in, VIP style. We chill and get deep with each other, but really its more of fixing the logistical issues for our next meet up to sex. No kiss closing here as westernized singaporeans have the heart of conservative tradition. So i just hold the tension for next time. During the process though i am applying my kino techniques as well as some massage. At one point my lips were at her neck as i whispered sexy words and there is no flinching. I know i have it.

So she has work the next day, and i flopsy it immediately (hey, you have work tomorrow, let me bring you back to your friends)…i am not a time grabbing novice. I know when to live to fight another day..

She says…you know what, i dont like the locals, theyre all pansies….you could pass for a singaporean looking guy…but youre waaay too cool. I tell her how i was brought up to be a leader, and i tell her how women need to be lead…she loves it and reciprocates convo.

So, end of the night, we part ways and schedule a meet sunday at a cafe nearby the hotel. The lair guy is just stunned (and processing…)

8
October
2007

Lessons from the Field Podcast —

The Swedes — Arrghhhhh

My voice is still shot from the bootcamp and jet lag, so please bear with me. Thanks

Troy

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1
October
2007

LR: DC Bootcamp, Follow up LR, and Student Notes

Hey guys. again i am typing this from my hotel business center at 400 AM

for this LR I have to thank one of our local students Anjon for having amazing logistical knowledge of the area.

Anyways we were to meet earlier in front of this upscale lounge at around 945 and since there was nothing visibly going on we decide to roll and get Dimitri some coffee a few blocks ahead. We get there and hear some brazilian band playing and a HUGE crowd. Again, Anjon suggested that it would be easy doing warm up over there because its an instant flopsy/. We arrive there and it felt like carnivale in the street corner. People were jumping in to dance salsa, jiving, one gay guy was voguing…everything. Vibe was amazing.

I see this girl that wanted to get in the crowd but was a bit hesitant but luckily one of the band members reeled her in. By the time she was reeled in, the music stopped, and the band went for a break. We chatted for a sec and since we had students waiting at the lounge, I decided to bounce her and start the lead. “Hey, what’s your plan for tonight?” girl: “nothing, really”…okay..we’re headed to this awesome secret lounge, come have drinks with us….girl:”sure”

2 tips for ONS is: dont let your target go far away, and keep SOI’ng until she is SURE you want her tonight

I find out she’s an intern here working in a lab for the smithsonian…do some OEQ’s as always and related as much as i could…(i.e. intern = monkey work for s–t pay, found out she wants to dig holes in greece and italy so i give her s–t for it, etc.) Got to the door, and went upstairs.

The lounge we were at was AMAZING. Imagine a used loft turned English-style, dim-litted venue FILLED with couches, corner couches, DARK places, outdoor patios, jazz band upstairs, and brazilian music downstairs. The MOOD is awesome.

So, students start working their sets, and things go great….I figured the best way to demonstrate solid game is to go from start to finish, and I did. Venue changes in the place, I would say 10++. I led her multiple times upstairs, downstairs, outside, etc. Having around 10-15 minutes each spot.

Kino was completely on. It was my subtle way of showing her my interest and after awhile she started reciprocating it. I was teaching her some dance moves and she passed those successfully. We go downstairs and she tells me she’s into this drink called the singapore sling. I told her Jaeger, she insisted on singapore sling (thinking i was getting her drunk with Jaeger, lol) and the bartender didnt even know what that was so we ended up downing some Jaeger bombs. Then, I lead her once more to the pitch black dance floor, and kino my way to the eventual kiss close….then more…and more…and more…We had done the dance moves so smoothly that women around us were very jealous of our competency. I take her upstairs to the jazz room and sit her. For the next 20 minutes we just had NORMAL convo. I.e. factual talk, about what we do. You don’t need to stack cool things one after the other to have solid game. There are gaps like these that will be present as you do this. She is amazing. Backpacked in Europe for 3 years, been to Israel, Lived in Canada, Miami, trained horses and took people touring around an Indian Reservation….she had an awesome personality and you can bet I was SOIing constantly. And it was genuine, too.

So 20 minutes later we head to the dance floor. Make out again, i ask logistics questions like “what time do you have to get up in the morning” then i decide to lead her outside, where Dimitri and the boys were at. I sit her again, and we talk, kiss, etc. Club Camera man comes up and we take photos making out….we sit again…and I decide I cannot wait for the signal. I have to go lead outside.

I go, lets get out of here. she agrees. I say goodbye to everyone and we leave the lounge. I told her we would get coffee but we were walking towards my hotel nearby. At some point she goes “are we having coffee or are we going to your hotel?” I tell her “both”. We enter the hotel lobby and I ask front desk where i can get coffee, and he says (thank God) “there’s a coffee maker in your room upstairs” so i look at her and say “well, i guess we’ll have to settle for coffee upstairs”

We head up, i take her around the room, show her some cool stuff like the ipod, Dimitri’s helmet, etc. Then she lies down on Dimitri’s bed. I tell her not to desecrate it and we hop of to my bed and make out heavily. I suck her nipples and all then i get LMR

“I think I’m gonna head home”

me: “okay”

It was nice meeting you” (she’s not moving)

me: “it was nice meeting you too”

She cracks up. She is not moving and still making out with me. I teach her a sexual technique in bed….and she is amazed. She tells me that she has something to teach me as well. She takes off my shirt because i told her i have amazingly soft skin (one word: Loufa) and from there i had no more LMR.

We had sex, and funny cuz Dimitri waltzes in. He falls asleep hard (good job wingman) and we do post sex make outs…i take her to her cab, and call her to make sure she is home safe. She thanks me for making her best night so far in DC

She wants us to have breakfast tomorrow before the debrief. And I agree to it.

great night!

Troy

========= FOLLOW UP NEXT DAY ==============

So, we finished debrief and at that exact moment she showed up (per my request she come see me before I leave). We head straight to the hotel bar to grab some brunch. We were in classic date setting (i.e. seated in front of each other) so you can imagine the tension that was built up. Again, we had more talk about each other…By the time dinner was over i still had around 40 minutes so while she was in the lobby restroom I started looking out for logistics. I had already checked out of the room so unfortunately no dice in that department. Near the ball room areas was a little hallway that was very very empty. Needless to say when she went out I did my whole “lets explore” thing, and led her along the way. Zero resistance. Ended up in that mini hallway and we start making out again. It got hot and heavy so i decide to pull her to the men’s restroom. We drop our shades in the sink top and start going at it. I managed to get in sexual state and I pulled her into one of the stalls and start unzipping. I slip a condom in and we go at it for about 7,8 minutes….UNTIL

4 Guys walk in the restroom!

Damn! Her bag was on the floor and they sensed that someone was in the stall. To add to it the other guy said “what are these shades doing here on the sink??? And there’s two?!?!?” So I just projected my voice from the stall and said “Thats mine”…and my girl said “The other one’s mine.” All 4 Guys freak out, like “Damn!!” and they pretty much left in shock. We finished it off, and discreetly left the restroom.

She was kind of in a sad moment and was telling me why I didn’t live in DC. We will plan a trip to Canada or New York Soon.

On another positive note I bumped into Rob in the Chi Town Airport. Boy looks good, and we shared some interesting insights on making our programs better for you guys. Do not worry, you guys are going to be in very good hands.

I’m out, back to the world

Troy

18
September
2007

LR: Speedy Escalation Under 10 Mins

So I’m on a day 2 meet with this cute chick who apparently owns a bistro/karaoke bar around the city

I roll in with me and my wing. We come in expecting some party atmosphere, only to find out she closed the place out for some private fun time, therefore they were in casual clothes and where a tad bit intimidated as we rolled in. The logistics were, 4 girls, 2 guys

In the juggler method, the ONLY thing you have to really work for, is LOGISTICS, nothing more. Because our method is about vibe and putting your real selves out there as soon as possible.

So we get there, and get a feel for this stuff.

With me and wing man’s busy traveling schedule, i can’t really go for day 2’s and such. There’s no time so i have to go for the SNL’s (Same Night Lays).

Our usual strategy especially if we have time by our side was to play cool — one big rule in the way i see things is that you can’t “push” an interaction unnaturally. So, we sit down, acclimate, and actually sing our hearts out for about 2 hours. We ordered some food, shared some laughs,  and as the night progressed, the comfort level started to really build up. We do kino here and there with all four girls, and we reward those who take risks (like when 2 of them did synchronized dancing, one of them sang even though she didnt sing a lot, or when one girl who hasnt had any alcohol slammed 2 tequila shots)….So again, I NEVER PUSH, BUT i escalate once the windows for escalation (platonic personal–> personal sexual) occurs.

And that window happened to open

So at one point, we all got a lil rowdy, and started talking about sexual topics, so the leader of the group girl takes a mic, and starts dropping sexual stories about her friend…”So, it all started when HBXXX kissed this guy who was so and so’s friend (it was funny as hell) that ended up in a blowjob…” The story was pretty sexual, yet I didn’t see the other friend’s ASD (anti-slut-defense) raise up other than a few reactions (while smiling), meaning she subconsciously wanted us to hear how sexual she could be. =) So, mutual escalation, the talk about sex started. I think at this point i rewarded that girl 2-3 times, and i communicated to her it’s ok that im hearing this stuff, i told her i found it sexy! (SOI again)

NEED to work on logistics….so…1 leaves, and we are down to 3. The other two i wouldve laid off of day 2’s but i didnt have time to do any day 2’s.

When one HB goes out to smoke, outside the karaoke area, i see the window for isolation, and I follow.

We talk a bit, flirt, tickle each other (whats with this tickling thing?) she touches my man boobs, (SEXUAL SWITCH ON) i start touching HER breasts…wow i like your breasts too…!….what are we doing…this is baaaaaaadd……MAKEOUT….her: omgggg what are we doing…then makeout again

I take her hand and lead her out with me…I open my car door…I jump in the back seat, turn the A/C on….i open the door, she gets in and we close it shut….we continue making out…groping and stuff…she takes of her pants for some fingering…i strip my pants…the whole time it was a whole back and forth of..”what are we doing….this is baad….OMG…what about….this is baad” Got blown 3x, then did the deed in the car…afterwards we talk some more, she has a modelling gig saturday, so im invited. I promise her to deny anything should her friends ask (and boy did they grill us!) and stuck with my word, so yes, she trusts me.

Fun Night!

Troy D

15
September
2007

Live Blogging: San Antonio Bootcamp In Progress - DOUBLE LAY

4:57. just rolled back from her place, my wingman is probably doing a take two on the other chickIts been awhile since i’ve actually prowled my own ‘hood, being that I travel to Austin and Dallas a lot I haven’t really reconnected with my local nightlife scene and had been more familiarThank you to my boy Martyn. He signed up for a CA bootcamp in MY TOWN.What did he get? A smorgasboard of mind-blowing epiphanies left and right. I will leave that for him to tell later on as this bootcamp is not even over. The guy was also lucky enough that one of my best wingmen and former students came over.So we roll to this upscale lounge, and at 1030, surprisingly it is dead. There is a martini bar right beside it which is starting to get packed. We decide to roll there. I brief my student in the parking lot on some very very important pointers for night game. Gave the pep talk, huddled, and it was on.

***Music — I wanna sex you up, by Color Me Badd…..

I scope the place out, and see two latin chicks starting their warm up dance.

Walk over with no hesitation….”hey, I LOVE COLOR ME BADD….like I adore mi amor, all for love…” Set pops open like crazy I told her…”You guys are the only ones really fun over here (then one of them starts grinding on me…i continue to talk)…i don’t like this stand-ish thing (referrring to 99% of the guys who were basically just standing, oblivious to the good music)….” Build more rapport, then woooosh….my wing adam hooks me up…we are locked in and both girls are digging our vibe (me and adam, together, are FUN…like we always leave a VERY good impression on women…at one point we were guessing how to humm the theme songs of Star Wars, Superman, Indiana Jones, and Back to the Future IN A ROW…a challenging, fun game you guys should try it.)

…Some guy they came with (Latin Lover looking dude) rolled in, and i talk to him for a sec…ask these girls if he was married to any of them (a resounding no!hahaha) so all i had to do was to occupy him for a sec then focus back on my chick. So Adam and i Split the set in a mini-isolation…back to back…I am with my girl, V, and he is with his, Y…eventually I foreshadow the next place we’re bouncing to (the lounge nearby) and let them go…abundance mentality and solid set strategy intact.

Eventually we bounce to the venue, and we run a few more sets. My boy bobby comes in (and is now a level 2 in my opinion)….and does his warm up, eventually a fight breaks out outside which gave him the perfect floppsy. I wasn’t there for the whole thing but all i heard from the girl was “are you gonna be around?” “whats your area code?” “we need to hang out”…I love Bobby because he is the guy who always forces outside the comfort zone and is a true believer in my anti-crystallization theory. Well, he got to get the girl tonight as well.

Adam had work tomorrow, so he bounced early. My student was just finishing some sets, when i see the three set from earlier walking to the exit of the lounge: Y,V, and the dude….I walk straight up to V, she grabs my hands And she is locked back in. I feel the drifting fingers from her end and the kino is just very very indicative, so even with loser dude trying to pull her, i do not mess up my frame. NOT A RAY OF DOUBT WILL SLIP IN, TROY…I tell myself. I ask her who the fuckin downer is, and she says its the guy. No big deal. I will win this later on, I take her number get a soft kiss (which was even more indicative of the same night lay), and do the rest of my demos and close out the nightgame part of the seminar. I teach my student Run and Gun and he is just in shock. Anyhoo, here’s the text transcript that will prove INVALUABLE TO THE SOLID F CLOSE, but before that, i just want to give Timmy the credit for thinking of this AMAZING LOGISTICAL TECHNIQUE: THE ROLLING BAR

When me and Tim were in mexico we realized that instead of having dumb-ass logistical problems of getting to pass by the liquor store and all while seeding the bounce, we would rather have a good selection of alcohol IN MY CAR. And the thing the girls will have to do is supply the ice and all that. Saves a lot of hassle. I just had to mention the ROLLING BAR because the transition was so damn smooth

I start doing logistical work,

Hey V, its Troy. My night isnt over yet. Whats up? V: Im at XXX Club Troy: What time do you have to get up in the am? V:No time in particular ===========TEXT VACUUM=========i do not text a thing Finally, V: G